Stefani Quane, Attorney-At-Law

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1998 to Present

Since 1998 when Lawlady.com launched on the internet, attorney Stefani Quane has been pioneering innovative, non-court solutions for divorcing couples. She trained with the national founders of the Collaborative Law model, Pauline Tesler and Stu Webb in 1999 to 2001. She was the first practicing collaborative divorce professional in Washington and introduced Collaborative Divorce to the first wave of Washington attorneys and allied professionals she trained. She is the grandmother to the King County Collaborative Law group having founded the first Washington collaborative law group that later morphed into King County Collaborative Law.    

Ms. Quane integrates legal principles of restorative justice to aid conflicted clients move past marital grudges and hurts.  She's trained in the Concious Uncoupling Model developed by Katherine Woodward Thomas and coaches her divorce clients in this model to help them move through the angst of divorce.   She's also studied the work of the High Conflict Institute and attorney and therapist Bill Eddy, a leader in managing high conflict divorce cases.  "Much of my style working  with high conflict couples comes from my study of the work of Bill Eddy. I find his practices guidelines reduce the stress of divorce and stop repeating triggers that inflame conflict."    "I  also admire the work of Stan Tatkin on the neurobiology of love and make sure that my client's understand the brain chemistry changes that happen during the beginning and ending processes of a relationship when our attachment and pleasure centers of the brain are activated."  She also trained in systemic constellation facilitiation which addresses multi-generational patterns which can play out in divorce.  

Ms. Quane strives to assist clients find organic, sensible solutions that match the couple's needs. She does not see every divorce as needing the same legal process.  She customizes her approach to each case.  No divorce is the same.   "However, most couples do benefit from mediation in my opinion," says Attorney Quane.  Couples typically report a sense of relief at having reached finality on court issues at the end of mediation.  Mediation is an excellent model of resolution because the parties have a say in the outcome of their litigation and fighting. I have mediated at least 200 divorces to date.  

Ms. Quane added prenuptial agreement services in 2004. "I got tired of seeing good marriages end up in hotly-contested divorces, and wanted to counsel people before they walked down the aisle and provide contracts to reduce later unnecessary divorce fighting.  I take my knowledge of divorce and apply it to helping people craft beneficial prenuptial agreements aimed at clarifying expectations and protecting pre-marital assets."  It is her mission before she retires to assist 1,000 clients with the prenup process.

Ms. Quane graduated from college with a BA in Economics with honors at University of Washington in 1986.  She was a Delta Gamma sorority member. She earned the Idaho Veteren's Scholarship for 3 years.  During college she clerked with the King County Public Defender's office. 

Ms. Quane's law degree is from University of Wisconsin- Madison, 1989. She was on the Dean's list many semesters and graduated in the top third of her class.  She was approached personally to join moot court and trained specifically in litigation and legal writing during law school. She interned for the Wisconsin Court of Appeals during law school and at the Seattle firm Stafford, Frey. 

After law school she worked as an insurance defense litigation attorney for Drew, Eckl and Farnham in Atlanta, and later Schwabe, Williamson, then Hackett, Beecher and Hart, and Forsberg and Umlauf in Seattle.  These fine firms provided excellent mentorship about being a responsible attorney.  Ms. Quane left insurance defense litigation to create LAWLADY.com in 1998.  When creating a family law practice, she understood very well how the litigation model can be harmful to families.  

Stefani Quane's first work at any law firm was at Quane Law of Idaho during high school. She was in charge of supervising the attorneys' monthly reports to the insurance adjusters.  This was the law firm her father founded and worked at from 1973 to his death in 2018.  Ms. Quane chose to follow in her father's career footsteps, but deep down she is very much a teacher like her mother Judith Allan.